This week we've got something special for you all: A guest piece written by April Johnson Stearns (my big sis)! April and her blogs
I [Heart] My Life and
Green Tea and Chocolate have gained a avid following online and have been featured numerous times in her area's
newspaper.
A year ago April was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. Here she relates how for her and her family bringing three baby chicks into their home in the midst of the cancer turned out to be a wonderful decision.
I hope you enjoy this piece and take a moment to check out her blogs!
KJ
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A Tiny, Peeping Spring Chick -- Just What the Doctor Ordered
If I said a chicken once saved the lives of my family, I
wouldn't be telling you the whole truth.
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Sweet Cecily |
It was actually three tiny chicks.
A black and white Barred Rock, a so-black-she's-green
Australorp, and quirky, beardless Americana.
To us, they are Kiki, Poppy, and Sweet Cecily. And they rule
the backyard.
A year ago, getting backyard chickens for our urban home
(not homestead mind you, just a simple home) was a dream I looked
forward to. The idea had popped into my head the previous year, and had refused
to budge (they say, once your mind has been expanded by an idea, it will never
shrink back – doh!). At night, I lay in bed trying to picture chickens in our very
urban backyard. We couldn't have many pets in our tiny postage stamp lot, but a
few chickens, I was thinking, we could manage. Pets, eggs – win/win. The pet
that makes you breakfast!
I'd received a few chicken books as Christmas presents that
year and as I read through the winter I was simultaneously prepping my
then-3-year-old on chicken farming dos and don'ts.
But then, right before spring, everything changed. I was
diagnosed with aggressive, stage 3 breast cancer. I found the lump myself one
evening and when I asked my husband to feel it, he immediately said, “What the
hell is that?!” It was enormous and had seemingly come out of nowhere.
With the arrival of this malignant lump, everything changed.
Chemo, surgery, radiation... I was diagnosed on March 12th – when I
asked my brand new oncologist how long treatment would take he said
nonchalantly, “I think we can have this wrapped up by New Year's.” New Year's?!
It was only March!
Suddenly I felt like I could literally hear my dreams and
this little life I'd created with my family crashing down all around me like
sheets of glass crashing on the floor. In the days following my diagnosis, I
was haunted. Late into the night, I'd sit in bed, staring at the moon-lit oak
tree in the backyard, listening to the twin sounds of my husband and child
breathing in their sleep. And I would cry. I cried for me and I cried for them.
Two weeks after my diagnosis, I started chemotherapy. Chemo
bridged the span from winter to summer: 5 months of intravenous treatments. My
hair fell out, I was tired, and sometimes nauseous, though thankfully I was
never throwing up. Mostly I was tired. I took to napping daily.
Life in our house began to revolve around treatments –
receiving them & recovering from them –
and doctor appointments. This is hard enough for grown-ups. Unbearable
for children.
Something needed to shift our focus.
At this time, we received such an outpouring of support from
friends & family, and even strangers. Everyone wanted to know how they
could help. My husband's aunt was aware of my pre-cancer dream to have a little
flock of hens. Being a carpenter, she set to work creating a lovely, little hen
house for us, made almost entirely from salvaged materials.
While she built the hen house, we debated whether it was a
good idea to get chicks this year. Was it too much to add on a new venture on
top of chemo? With my weakened immune system, was it safe for me to be around
the chicks? Was another new thing really what our daughter needed?
One June morning, mid-way through my course of chemotherapy,
we decided to take the plunge.
I'd done a little research on the more gentle chicken
varieties and which ones tended to get along with each other. I decided on the
Barred Rock, Americana, and Austrolorp. Of course they were not all to be had
from the same feed store. That would be too easy, right? So on brilliantly
sunny morning, my daughter and I drove 30 minutes into the mountains to acquire
our first-ever chicken. In her car seat, my daughter held the little white box
with the air holes. Inside, the 4 day-old chick peeped and peeped. Within five
minutes, she was named Sweet Cecily. (All our chickens ended up being named
from favorite fictional characters.)
We took Sweet Cecily directly to the second feed store, this
one closer to our house, and bought fuzzy Poppy and tiny Kiki. And then we took
our little flock home to a cardboard box with a heat lamp in the garage. There
they lived for 8 weeks.
It became our habit to spend lots of time in the stuffy
garage, holding the chicks, laughing at their antics, watching them explore,
snuggling them as they fell into sudden, exhausted baby sleep. I have many
happy memories of that time of sitting in a folding chair with my daughter in
my lap, with a chick in her lap.
During this time I continued my chemotherapy. Right about
the time we got the chicks, my treatments changed and I went through 3
infusions that were much more difficult than the previous drugs. I was more
tired, more nauseous. I felt myself becoming mentally adverse to the drugs – I
was just ready to be done (to this day I cannot look at red Kool-Aid because
the medicine was this very shade of red).
But adding the chicks to our daily mix was always a blessing
and never a burden. In the realm of livestock, chickens require very little
care – nothing you can't squeeze into 10 minutes a day (on chemo even!).
And that chemo? Well, it did the trick – I had my last
treatment on Aug. 8 (the same week the chickens moved from their now-cramped
infant cardboard box out to their big girl spacious, custom-built,
fancy-schmancy hen house). At the end of chemo, the lump in my breast was no
longer palpable. And when I had a radical modified mastectomy in September, the
surgeon found no evidence of disease either in the breast tissue or my lymph
nodes.
In retrospect, getting those little chicks was the best
thing we could have done during my cancer treatment. Having a sick mother is
always stressful for children, but having a sickness that goes on and on is
something else entirely. The chicks became the perfect distraction. Something
to keep the mood light & fun – something to look forward to every day...
Those chicks have grown up being handled. My daughter carries them around them
yard, balances them on her swing, sets them on balls. She hugs them tight. They
were just what we needed.
And when we got our first eggs at Thanksgiving... well, we
had a lot to be thankful for that year.
April Johnson Stearns is standing right behind you. A
work-from-home mama, April lives in Santa Cruz, CA with her husband, daughter,
black cat, gold fish, three chickens of various colors, and two in-laws. You
can find all her musings about parenting, cancer, (parenting
with
cancer), nutrition, and everything in-between at her two blogs (cuz she's an
overachiever like that) at
I [Heart] My Life and
Green Tea andChocolate.